I fully confess that I was one of those judgmental moms-to-be, stating proudly that I will exclusively breastfeed my baby and thinking that those moms who didn’t breastfeed were probably lazy, didn’t care about the benefits for their child or were not willing to get over their self-consciousness to learn how to breastfeed their baby. That was, until I became a mom and found out the hard way that breastfeeding isn’t as easy as some people want you to think it is and that if not for formula I would not be a breastfeeding mom today. Wait a minute – go back – if not for formula? Yes, that’s right I said it – if not for formula I would not be a breastfeeding mom today.
Without going into too much detail I will tell you that my little SP needed medical attention at 6 days old. My little angel was dehydrated because I wasn’t producing enough milk. At that point, for her health and safety, I had to start her on formula. While I pumped and pumped and pumped and nursed and nursed and nursed she needed to be supplemented with formula for 5 weeks until finally, at one point, my supply equaled her demand.
Since I’ve seen both sides I can definitely understand that many formula feeding mothers are faced with judgment regarding their lack of breastfeeding. Sixty years ago moms who breastfeed were judged, put down, not offered support from the medical profession nor their friends and family. Now, I see the opposite problem. Moms who have chosen to formula feed for any reason are judged for their very personal decision of how to feed their baby.
So, let’s give all moms a break. Formula feeding or breast feeding neither makes you a better mother. In each case you are giving your child exactly what he or she needs – nourishment to grow and develop. So breast feeding moms – stop judging. Formula feeding moms – stop feeling bad. We are all doing a great job!